Monday, July 7, 2014

Achieving happiness is simpler than you think - here are 10 ways that resonate with me

OK, this is a major deviation from the usual things I write about.
I do not purport to be a life coach, a preacher or anything of the sort. I just simply like to share what resonates with me in the hopes of possibly inspiring others.
So when I came across this list, written by Matthew Manning (@matthew_manning) I felt I should pass it along.
I did make some minor edits, but the gist of it belongs to Matthew.





  1. Stop comparing yourself to other people. Many seemingly happy and successful people are burning themselves alive on the fire of their inner turmoil.  Focus on you and your own personal growth. 
  2. Socialize.  Even if you are an introvert, force yourself into social scenarios that give you the opportunity to meet people and form connections.  These connections will put you back in touch with your humanity.
  3. Make healthy decisions. It is amazing how much exercise and good diet can change your outlook on the world around you.  The negative thoughts in your head that seem so very real and pressing will melt away.
  4. Do something different. Stop wasting your time trying to find the "perfect hobby."  Pick anything - whether it's art, coffee tasting, building model airplanes.  Find something that you can put effort into, build competence, and see results.
  5. Get in touch with your anchors. We tend to lose these anchors as we get older.  Try to better position yourself within any communities you once found a home in, whether that's your family, your culture, or your religion. 
  6. Look less aheadLook less behind. Try to refocus yourself to the current moment more often. Start building memories instead of living in them.  Start creating your future instead of just hoping for a better one.  If you don't do this, your life will become a fog that can stretch across your entire time on earth.
  7. Create.  Write in a journal.  Paint something. Start to fashion the relics that you will leave behind when you are gone.
  8. Let go.  Forgive those who hurt you.  Everyone gets hurt.  But if you do not leave that hurt in the past, it will follow you like a wolf - forever casting a dangerous shadow over everything you do.
  9. Worry more about your significant others.  Many times it is our own narcissism that destroys us. It seems counter-intuitive, but take some time each day to think about the needs of the other people in your life.  Helping them meet those needs will make you happier in a way that you might not understand right now.
  10. Stop running.  There is no such place as "away." Travel to as many exotic destinations as you want, indulge in as many expensive vacations as you want, but unless you deal with your own demons you will always find yourself in the same place. Pull out your sword and slay those dragons once and for all.




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